Assumptions About Influencers -Avoiding the Comparison Trap

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Assumptions about influencers - avoiding the comparison trap

It’s so easy to assume certain things about influencers based on the little bit that we see in stories or on YouTube. Today I want to address it and encourage you to avoid the comparison trap.

After what I thought would be a fun question to ask my followers, I quickly realized there are a lot of things others think about me. Today I want to clear things up in this post addressing assumptions about influencers – avoiding the comparison trap

A few weeks ago I went on Instagram stories and asked a question – “what are your assumptions about me?” 

I didn’t really know what to expect, but I thought it might be fun to see the things that people assumed about me and then address what was true and what was false. 

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When I logged in the following day and read some of the assumptions that people sent it, I honestly couldn’t believe it. 

You never get angry. 

You never raise your voice. 

You never yell at your kids. 

While some of the assumptions about me were true, others could not have been further from the truth. 

Assumptions about influencers and avoiding the comparison trap

Then it got me thinking…how often do we compare our lives to the highlight reel of someone else’s? 

So many women struggle with depression and discouragement, and I can’t help but wonder if so much of that is rooted social media. 

Even accounts that are meant to inspire and encourage and motivate…can end up making us feel less than, inadequate or not good enough. 

We have become so invested in the lives of those we watch on our screens that we’ve lost site of the goodness and beauty that’s all around us. 

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I have so much to be thankful for, but if I’m not careful I can become bombarded with thoughts that strip away my gratefulness and shift my focus on what I don’t have rather than what I do. 

This issue is heavy on my heart, and the pull towards our phones to see what she is doing, what she is wearing, what she is sharing – whoever “she” might be – is dangerous. 

In the YoutTube video above I shared some of your assumptions and addressed them. Yes, some of them were true. But so many of them were absolutely false! 

Assumptions about influencers and how to not compare or assume

The reality is that I am human. I make mistakes. I have bad days. Projects go wrong. I get emotional, overwhelmed, insecure. My house is not perfect. My drawers are not perfectly organized. I sometimes yell at my kids and my husband and I get into fights. 

Yet even as I type, I know in my heart that I do the same thing. I go online and see someone’s home, or feed, or body and think – wow, that must be nice. I wish I could afford that. I wish I woke up like that. I wish I…

And quickly my thought’s spiral and my I begin to play the victim, rather than finding victory in Christ. 

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And that’s exactly where the enemy wants us. Just like Eve in the garden, he wants us to feel as though God is somehow holding out on us. That’s He’s forgotten about us. That He doesn’t care.

Change your perspective today friend. If you feel inadequate today, take a look at your daily habits and ask yourself why you feel that way and make some changes. Delete some apps if you have to. Take a break from your phone. Make a list of everything you have to be thankful for. 

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Comparing yourself to the highlight reel of someone else’s life almost never ends well. Don’t ever assume that the “influencers” you watch have it all together, because they don’t. 

I hope this post on assumptions about influencers – avoiding the comparison trap was an encouragement to someone today. If it was, would you let me know in the comments below?

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  1. Beautiful reminder, Andrea! None of us are perfect – each of us has our victories we can be proud of and our shortcomings we can be humbled by. Thank you for reminding us to count our blessings!

  2. Andrea
    It is so refreshing to have a young,beautiful woman speak truth about the realities of marriage, children, and life in general. Your joy is so evident. Your home is warm and inviting. Thank you for sharing your accomplishments with us!

  3. ohmygoodness! your writing about how the evil one wants us to think God has forgotten us? i have been mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually numb..and thats exactly what i have felt. before this i was a prayer warrior..i prayed over and over again for God to let me be even closer to Him..and yet here i am…several years of spiritual bankruptcy…my best friend has told me over and over again that its the evil one. ugh…calgon, take me away! 🙏

  4. Beautiful article. Thank you for the reminder that we need to be more thankful for everyday and the events surrounding us.

  5. Hi, I would like to think most people realise that we only see a snapshot of someone’s life on YouTube and because we are all human, things are not always rosey. I watch you because of your serenity and cheerful disposition as much for the content you provide. So just know you bring a little light into my life and I thank you for that. Sending good thoughts to you and your family x

  6. Love your honesty and sincerity in your videos and blog. Thank you for sharing your truths. All age groups need to be reminded to learn to find gratitude for our blessings. This is becoming an epidemic in young adolescents today.

  7. Andrea, I read this in my devotional today and thought of this post! May it minister to you as it did to me.

    MIchele a world where we are constantly told to beautify ourselves so we will be noticed, the concepts of adorning the hidden person of the heart sounds almost like make believe. But what it comes down to is the truth that the most important opinion we should seek is the opinion of our Creator. It might sound trite and cliche, but when we step away from the distraction of the media circus and all the lies it’s told us, the truth becomes clear.

    Let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 1 Peter 3:4

    You were made to delight the heart of God. Nothing delights him more than your heart, turned toward your Savior and clothed in the imperishable beauty of a peaceful spirit flowing with gentleness, kindness, and goodness.

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    1. I wish there was a “Love” button for that statement. Thank you so much for sharing it! Perhaps if we praised God for what we see in others rather than wishing we could be like that, our minds would be lifted up rather than getting caught in the negative?

  8. I don’t use social media, but I’ve seen influencers on YouTube. Some seem to have genuine talents and enjoy sharing those with others (like you!). But others seem to think that being an “influencer” is the ultimate goal, to amass as many followers as possible and accumulate nothing but “likes”. Such an artificial, self-centered world that is.

    Social influencers are folks with access to a video camera and some way to download their video. Their reasons for wanting to do so are numerous. Some simply have egos they need to feed, others wish to share misconceptions to influence the public. We, the viewers, just need to be aware of this and make sure that what we watch is edifying.

    Viewers can pick and choose ideas they see on a website. After all, it’s their home and it’s important to fill it with what they love! Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder!

    Let’s influence what is truly important – faith, family, community.

  9. In a world where suffering is overwhelming, it does my old heart GREAT GOOD to be a witness to the fact that there are women who are living a life that is wholesome and pleasing to God.

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